Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Calgon, take me away

I feel like I need to preface this by saying today hasn't been such a "take me away" day, but just thought I would still share what has been going on around here lately. As I am typing this Nicholas is standing over me since he doesn't want to nap and doesn't get the concept of "quiet time". Fun times. In anycase....as most of you know we have been trying to potty train Nicholas. This has not gone well at all. After two weeks of trying, trying anything and everything, I was unsuccessful and as each day passed I could feel my level of frustration rising my the minute. I was getting more agitated and felt like yelling at him all the time knowing that he can control when to pee and just refuses to sit on the toilet to go. So, after much deliberation we decided to hold off on the potty training for now. My mom will be visiting a couple of weeks, so maybe she will have better luck if we decide to try again then.

On top of the whole potty training fiasco, Nicholas has also decided to test his limits to the max. He is not listening to anything I say, purposely being defiant and won't share with Joshua, just to name a few things. Terrible three's anyone???? He is generally on his best behavior when with other people or we are out and about, but he certainly turns on the heat when we are at home. It has become a daily occurance, more than once, to have him in time out or receive a 'pop'. This doesn't seem to phase him. It is just craziness. Where has my sweet little boy gone???? Oh wait, I know, he is still there, like the times he does give Joshua a toy, or share his snack with him, or comes up to me to give me a big hug, or says something that just makes me laugh. He definitely has those moments still, but somehow I keep focusing on the bad things that have been going on. I have been praying a lot to keep my focus on the good and not get so frustrated, but it is hard, very hard. Today has been good though. No major fights or defiance which is sooooo great. I really don't like raising my voice and I seem to be doing that a lot these days. It is no fun.

So, there you have it. My last couple weeks in a nutshell. There have been other things going on too, like visiting with friends, going to the park, playing outside in the sprinklers, etc, etc. Oh and we had haircuts on Saturday. I will post pictures of that later. For now I just wanted to vent and let it all out, at least a little bit. Thanks for indulging me. Gotta go keep Nicholas busy so he doesn't wake Joshua up. We are trying to move him to one nap a day. That's fun too.


Brittny said...

I am SOOOOOO with you on the attitude thing!!! Christopher is acting the same way and my friend said her 3 year old is too. I think the "terrible 2's" is a myth, or maybe just given the name too soon. They hadn't reached the threes yet. And good for you for taking a break with the potty training. You can't force it, no matter what any doctor makes you think. Can't wait to see you again!!!!

Caroline Armstrong said...

Oh Melissa, I feel like I am reading my life in your blog!:) I keep having to remind myself that they act the way they do with mommy because they feel the most comfortable with us. That weirdly, and I know this is going to sound crazy, but it is actually a level of showing intimacy. I took this Nurturing Boys Class at Daystar Christian Ministries and it is was just so eye-opening. David Thomas is the instructor and he co-wrote a book called "Wild Things" and it is all about raising boys and why they are the way they are. It is great.
With all that said...I FEEL THE EXACT SAME WAY! I am more exhausted at having to discipline than anything else and just want to enjoy the little things! It is hopefully comforting to you that you are not alone! (that gets me through the day some times!) We should talk more!!!! Hang in there!

Stacey said...

I'm so sorry...hang in there. I have been so frustrated lately I went to see my doctor and got on Effexor. I was just yelling at the kids, and even though I KNOW Eli is autistic, it is SO hard to deal with him sometimes just on a minute to minute basis. I know they aren't the same things, but just know you aren't alone in your frustration. And please, please please don't stress over the potty training. He may be physically be ready, but maybe not emotionally. They both have to be ready at the same time, and only he knows when that is. Just give it time and pray for patience...I remember how angry I was at Eli when I knew how he COULD get it..but that he just wouldn't do it. It will happen... I promise.